Be who you really are

OR don’t be intimidated into acting as if you’re  different than who you  are

How much of yourself do you show people? If someone asked another person about you, what would they say? Would they be right? Is that how you think you are too?

Do you act differently with different people?  Do you try to make other people like you or not give you a hard time by acting a certain way, even though it’s not really who you are?

Good or bad, the things that people say about you are not you, they’re just descriptions in the other person’s mind.

Sometimes we try to act different than who we are because we think it will make someone else love or at least like us. And if you’ve been trying to please others your whole life, you may even have lost touch with your real self.

Acting like you’re different than who you are so you can be loved or respected by a person who isn’t loving the real you ends up being a problem anyway because they love an imposter and you have to keep being one!

I’m not saying you should be comfortable with all the crazy, goofy, and even undesirable habits  you may have picked up. If you leave your socks on the floor, that’s your business, but at least admit to yourself that you’re the person who does that.

Sometimes people say, “be real”, “be yourself”. Sure, but who is that? Who is “yourself”? They want you to be real, be authentic. If you act like your true self with people, it shows them you trust them enough to be a little vulnerable with them. Then they’re more likely to trust and be their real selves around you. From that you can develop strong lasting friendships.

When you know who you are deep down inside, you have an opportunity to get comfortable with yourself and that makes you stronger - also, less lonely. If you’re friends with yourself you can enjoy your own company!

So, accept yourself. It feels better and lets you move forward with your life. It’s much easier than fighting yourself. There’s a good saying, “Be yourself, everyone else is taken”.

Who are you really?